Uma sewazi ukuthi kufanele ugweme uhlobo oluthile lomuntu, ungachithi isikhathi futhi uxoxe ube wazi ukuthi awumfanele omunye umuntu.Khuluma nozakwethu kuhlelo lokusebenza lokuqomisana, futhi akukho lutho olungalungile ngokwazi ukuthi wenzani nalokho ongakufuni.Uma unokuthile okuphulwayo, sicela uklelise ngokuqondile.Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu kuzoqeda izinkinga ezithile ezingaxazululeki.
Inqubo yokuthola “oyedwa” ingakhandla futhi ingapheli, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi eside kangakanani, ungavumeli ukulangazelela kwakho ukuthola othile kukwenze uhlupheke ngenxa yokungatholi ukubekezelelana okufanele.Uma umuntu ebonisa ukuziphatha okunobuthi, sicela ungamvumeli acabange ukuthi ulungile.Mtshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, futhi umazise ukuthi udinga ukufakwa epulasitiki noma ukuthuthwa.Uma uziphatha ngale ndlela, amadoda azozizwa izinto ongafuni ukuzibekezelela ebudlelwaneni.
Abesifazane abazethembayo, abanamandla abawavumeli amadoda anobuthi ukuba angene ekuphileni, azokhipha la mandla yonke indawo.Ukuhamba ngekhanda lakho phezulu, lesi simo sengqondo sibonisa ukuthi unombono ophakeme ngawe futhi ngeke ubanjwe.Lesi simo sengqondo sizoheha abantu ababalulekile empilweni yakho, ngoba abantu abanobuthi bayokwazi ukuthi abakwazi.
Qiniseka ukuthi ulalela umuzwa wakho wemvelo, ngoba bangakwazi ukubona noma ukubona okuthile ngaphambi kokuba babone.Uma kuzwakala kungakhululekile, noma uma othile osanda kuhlangana naye ezwa sengathi ufihla okuthile noma uqamba amanga, khona-ke indlela engcono kakhulu kungaba ukwenza ngendlela yakho ngaphambi kokuba izinto zonakaliswe.Abantu abanobuthi ngokuvamile bazokukhombisa ubunjalo babo ngokushesha ngemva kokuhlangana nabo, ngakho-ke uma uzizwa ungaphilile, lokhu kungase kube njalo.zithembe wena.
Abantu abanobuthi bavame ukuchuma ezindaweni ezifana nemidlalo yeshashalazi futhi bakhononde nganoma yini.Lokhu kuziphatha kungakhungathekisa futhi kuzokudonsela ezingeni labo kuphela.Uyizinto eziyisicefe, njengokuhleba kanye nemizwa engemihle, futhi awufuni abantu abaseduze kwakho bakusebenzise njengokuzijabulisa.Indlela engcono kakhulu yokukhipha laba bantu iwukuba uhlale usezingeni eliphezulu.Gwema idrama, ungasakazi inhlebo noma amahlebezi, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ukuze ube nesimo sengqondo esihle.
Lapho uphishekela uthando, kulula ukukhohlwa ngokuzinakekela, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi asikwazi ngempela ukuthanda abanye ngaphandle kokuba sizithande thina.Khumbula ukuchitha isikhathi uzwakalisa uthando lwakho nokunakekela umsebenzi wakho.Yenza okuthile okukujabulisayo, futhi usebenze kanzima ukuqeda wonke amandla amabi empilweni yakho.Lokhu kuzokusiza ube nengqondo ecacile kanye nokwahlulela okungcono lapho ukhetha umlingani noma udlula nabanye.
Noma nini lapho uhlangana nabantu abasha, qiniseka ukuthi ukhumbula uhlu lwakho lwezinto okufanele ube nazo kanye nabaphangi.Cabangela izinto, izici, nokuziphatha okubaluleke kakhulu kuwena kumlingani wakho.Ungesabi ukuhambisana nalezo zindinganiso, futhi ulahle labo okubonakala bengenakubalwa.Kunomehluko phakathi kokunikeza umuntu ithuba nokuhlalisa umuntu.Umuhle kakhulu ukuthi ungaxazululwa.
Ungase uzithole usothandweni nomuntu oyedwa noma ngaphezulu enifana ngakho okuningi.Kulokhu, nyathela kalula futhi ungazivumeli ukuba yisisulu sazo zonke izinto ezingahambanga kahle ebudlelwaneni obudlule futhi.Laba bafana bangabadlali be-exe ngesizathu, ngakho vele uqiniseke ukuthi awukhangwa omunye umfana onobuthi, ngoba nje uzizwa ujwayelekile noma ucabanga ukuthi ungabhekana nakho futhi.Ufanelwe okungcono kunalokhu.
Abantu abasithandayo ezimpilweni zethu bavamise ukubona izinto esingazazi ebudlelwaneni.Singase singazinaki izimpawu eziyisixwayiso, noma simane singakunaki ukujabula kwethu ebudlelwaneni obusha obusenza singaziboni izinkinga lapho.Uma abangani nomndeni wakho bezwakalise ukukhathazeka kwabo ngothile abahlangane naye, batshele ukuthi uyibonile inkinga, ungayiqedi.Bafuna okungcono kakhulu kuwe, bafuna nje ukukuvikela ekulimaleni.
Amadoda anobuthi avame ukuvela ngendlela yabantu abanezinkinga eziningi ngaphakathi kwabo.Yebo uma umthanda umuntu usazomthanda yize ehlangabezana nobunzima obuningi empilweni yakhe kodwa akuwona umsebenzi wakho ukusindisa umuntu odinga ukuzixazululela izinkinga zakhe.Ngeke nje ugxile empilweni yakho ekulungiseni izinto zabanye abantu, futhi awukwazi ukumane ugxile kuwena.Abantu abanobuthi nabo bazokwenza uzizwe unecala ngenxa yezinkinga zabo, futhi ubenze bazizwe benecala, kodwa uma ubuhlobo bulimaza impilo yakho, kufanele ube namandla okuhamba.Bazofunda ukulunga, kodwa kufanele uqinisekise ukuthi izidingo zakho nazo ziyahlangatshezwa.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Mar-29-2021